Please, please make your kids sleep. Focus on it. Demonstrate it. Prioritize it. Our kids and teens are collapsing under a never-before-in-human-history lack of sleep. Cancel things on the calendar. Slow down. Hang out with your kids. Be bored. Prioritize your kids and teens sleep. At least love them that much. Delony

Wives: If your husband works hard for your family, tells you the truth, shows up for you and the kids (even though he may not say it right or do it all right), and is trying to navigate a world gone mad with both strength and vulnerability, Please grab his face, with both hands, Look him in his eyes, And tell him you're proud of him. Let him know you see him, and that you're proud of him. These words might just save his life. Delony

Between the Epstein nonsense, the floods, Al threats, and economic pundits screaming at each other, I reached my breaking point. I can't control any of the above things. None of them. So I turned off all the media and got to work. I called real people who are currently working to help with the flood recovery. I made a small donation to a trustworthy cause. I cleaned up a specific mess in my house that has been bothering me for weeks. I took my daughter out for pizza. I did something very physically challenging. I walked the dog and I took out the trash. I reached out to tell a few people how grateful I am for them. I prayed...a lot. And so on... You will not scroll or outrage your way to peace. Go find the next right thing and get after it. It's the only true path to peace. Delony

Put your phone down when your partner is speaking to you. Phone down. Eyes up. Your marriage is more important than the metal box in your hand. Delony

Please don't get to the end of your life and say to your spouse, "You know...we forwarded a bunch of memes and watched a bunch of streaming episodes." Go for a walk. Dance in the living room. Have sex. Go to counseling. Find a group of couples to come over. Go to a bingo hall. Take food to the homeless. Visit someone. And on and on and on. Go live your one wild life, and stop watching other people live theirs. Delony

Parents: Be very, very selective and careful about childhood sleepovers. Very careful. It takes one kid's smart phone to put images into your child's mind that will last a lifetime. It takes one older-brother's friend to take your child's innocence forever. It takes one adult's lapse in judgement or character to powerfully impact your child in a negative way. If you choose sleepovers for your kids, do not be afraid to ask hard questions about personal and digital safety. Be upfront about your expectations. And always let your child know you'll pick them up at any time of the night, for any reason. Never let your child feel they're on their own. Delony

A great marriage isn't built on the loud, over the top, instagram moments. It's built on the boring, little, everyday moments that aren't picture perfect. Practice love daily. Even when it's not exciting. Delony

Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent. They need a calm, safe one. Delony

Children, at an elementary school, during worship. A woman on a train. Young high school students, headed to class. A husband and father of two young children, speaking at a public forum. Insanely and senselessly, gone. Tonight, we sob and weep with those who sob and weep. Because in these homes, fathers and daughters and sisters and kids aren't coming home. I'm sick and disgusted. I'm heartbroken and overwhelmed with sadness. I'm full of anger and a sense of hopelessness. May God welcome these souls home with open arms. And may God have mercy on our broken, ugly world. Delony

If you don't have friends, your kids won’t either. Let them see you say yes to community, to help, to connection. Model the life you hope they grow into. Delony

Date nights aren’t optional. They’re maintenance for your marriage. And even the strongest marriages still require maintence. Delony

One of the greatest gifts you can give your romantic partner is clear instructions about what you want. About how they can love you well. I know that Hollywood has taught us that being in love means that we should be able to read each others minds. But that's not reality. It's fantasy. Give the person you love a clear roadmap — with instructions — on how they can best love you. Dishes, car repair, sex, bed times with the kids, meals, putting down their phone, working more, etc. You might feel annoyed, angry, un-sexy, or frustrated. But clarity is kindness. It can help your partner love you — how you want to be loved. In the new year, give each other a chance to love well. No more mind reading. Delony

Wives / Girlfriends: Instead of asking him what's wrong, simply put your hand on his forearm and let him feel you. Instead of shying from his heavy feelings, lean closer and put your hand on the back of his neck. Instead of assuming his head is empty like every sitcoms and social media account suggests, assume he's carrying brutally heavy burdens that he's been told his entire life to just shut up about. Of course there are idiots in every group of people. But the men that I know, and that I meet all across the country, are trying to get it right. Your touch, your willingness to get close, and saying the words, "I'm proud of you" might just save his life. I know because they saved mine. Delony

Never raise your voice in your home. Never yell at your kids. Never scream at your spouse. Yelling and screaming is an adult temper tantrum. It's a sign that you've lost control and are resorting to intimidation instead of leadership. It doesn't help. It only hurts. Children yell and kick and scream. Mature adults do not. Delony

Dads: I recently checked with some medical professional colleagues and my suspicions were correct… There has never been a continuous 45 minute poop in the history of bowel movements. Ever. Stop hiding in the bathroom. Put down your phones, wipe, flush, and rejoin your families. They need you. Much love, Delony

Stop trying to win the argument. Instead, start trying to win back connection. Connection is key to a lasting, loving, and life giving marriage. Delony

Husbands: Stoping whining about your wife not putting gas in the car. Just go fill it up. I know you work hard. I know you're tired. I know she may not appreciate you in the way you think she should. Just go do the next right thing anyway. Fill up her car with gas, and move on with your time and energy. You can choose to look for ways to serve your wife or you can choose to look for things to complain about her. Choose service and honor. Delony

It's strange that this will be a controversial note, but here we go... Yesterday, my wife woke up with a terrible pain in her abdomen. By the early afternoon, she was in the ER, diagnosed with appendicitis. Within a few hours, an on-call surgeon came in, and working with his team of nurses, PA's, anesthesiologists, etc., he safely removed her appendix, and she is now on the road to recovery. I know it's become en vogue to crap on modern medicine, and to talk bad about medicall professionals of all sorts. Today, I am grateful for the nurses, PA's, pharmacists, administrators, and all of the doctors who saved my wife's life. Modern healthcare has problems, like every industry. But it's full of countless people dedicated to helping hurting people. I'm in awe of their talents and care. Thank you modern medicine and THANK YOU to everyone who has dedicated their lives to helping hurting people, especially those working in hospitals and medical offices all over the country. I’m super grateful for each of you. Thank you, Delony

A yelling parent can’t teach a child to be calm. Never, ever yell at your kids. Delony

When your child starts speaking to you, put down your phone and look them in their eyes. Do this as soon as you hear their voice. Even if it's just to tell them you need some time to finish whatever it is you're doing. But make eye contact every single time. Your child is more important than your phone. Never, ever give them a reason to think otherwise. Delony