Wives: If your husband works hard for your family, tells you the truth, shows up for you and the kids (even though he may not say it right or do it all right), and is trying to navigate a world gone mad with both strength and vulnerability, Please grab his face, with both hands, Look him in his eyes, And tell him you're proud of him. Let him know you see him, and that you're proud of him. These words might just save his life. Delony

Please don't get to the end of your life and say to your spouse, "You know...we forwarded a bunch of memes and watched a bunch of streaming episodes." Go for a walk. Dance in the living room. Have sex. Go to counseling. Find a group of couples to come over. Go to a bingo hall. Take food to the homeless. Visit someone. And on and on and on. Go live your one wild life, and stop watching other people live theirs. Delony

Parents: Be very, very selective and careful about childhood sleepovers. Very careful. It takes one kid's smart phone to put images into your child's mind that will last a lifetime. It takes one older-brother's friend to take your child's innocence forever. It takes one adult's lapse in judgement or character to powerfully impact your child in a negative way. If you choose sleepovers for your kids, do not be afraid to ask hard questions about personal and digital safety. Be upfront about your expectations. And always let your child know you'll pick them up at any time of the night, for any reason. Never let your child feel they're on their own. Delony

One of the greatest gifts you can give your romantic partner is clear instructions about what you want. About how they can love you well. I know that Hollywood has taught us that being in love means that we should be able to read each others minds. But that's not reality. It's fantasy. Give the person you love a clear roadmap — with instructions — on how they can best love you. Dishes, car repair, sex, bed times with the kids, meals, putting down their phone, working more, etc. You might feel annoyed, angry, un-sexy, or frustrated. But clarity is kindness. It can help your partner love you — how you want to be loved. In the new year, give each other a chance to love well. No more mind reading. Delony

Never raise your voice in your home. Never yell at your kids. Never scream at your spouse. Yelling and screaming is an adult temper tantrum. It's a sign that you've lost control and are resorting to intimidation instead of leadership. It doesn't help. It only hurts. Children yell and kick and scream. Mature adults do not. Delony

Dads: I recently checked with some medical professional colleagues and my suspicions were correct… There has never been a continuous 45 minute poop in the history of bowel movements. Ever. Stop hiding in the bathroom. Put down your phones, wipe, flush, and rejoin your families. They need you. Much love, Delony

Do not be afraid to try as hard as you can. On your marriage. On your health. On your work. On your relationship with your kids. On your faith. On anything. Quiet quitting says way more about you, than anyone else. For once in your life, go all in. It will not guarantee success in terms of outcomes. But it will guarantee success in character and strength. And that, my friends, is the goal. I love y’all, Delony

Note to self: Don't let the on-field performance of a bunch of teenagers or young adults, on any given Friday, Saturday, or Sunday, make or break your weekend. You must have higher standards for yourself. If your emotional regulation revolves around the final score of other people (college or professional) playing a game, your life is lame. Instead of outsourcing your life to other people's performances, go out and find adventures and activities to be involved with yourself. It may be on a field, in the woods, on a stage, with your wife or kids, or playing music... Get in the ring of YOUR own life and stop quarterbacking from the recliner. Commit to no longer outsourcing your life. Delony

Childhood sleepovers have never been the wisest, safest choice. Now they’re borderline unwise. Be very selective about where you child sleeps. Ask very hard questions. Understand the boundaries and character of every adult, teenager, and other children who may be interacting with your child. Clearly state your values. And say no most of the time. Your child deserves to be safe where they sleep. That safety starts with you. Delony

The words: “I am proud of you” can breathe life and worth into an exhausted, beaten down, and anxious man. Never lie to him, But if you’re truly proud of your man, Tell him. Often. For God’s sake, Tell him. Delony