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Here's the reframe.... It’s not 'me first', it’s 'me ALSO' We’re so quick to step aside, to give the biggest slice, the last bite, the softest blanket to someone else. It becomes automatic. But the truth is....you’re a someone too. A someone who deserves moments of joy and softness, not just when everyone else has had theirs, but simply because you matter too. Sure, it looked like cake but it tasted like a little slice of self worth. Ironically they were GF cakes from my mother-in-law so as a coeliac they were obviously bought with me in mind TOO 😂❤️ What’s something small you said yes to recently that made a big difference? Oh and this dreamy fleece (fleecy on the inside too which is very important!!!) is from @gympluscoffee AD PRESS
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Here's the reframe.... It’s not 'me first', it’s 'me ALSO' We’re so quick to step aside, to give the biggest slice, the last bite, the softest blanket to someone else. It becomes automatic. But the truth is....you’re a someone too. A someone who deserves moments of joy and softness, not just when everyone else has had theirs, but simply because you matter too. Sure, it looked like cake but it tasted like a little slice of self worth. Ironically they were GF cakes from my mother-in-law so as a coeliac they were obviously bought with me in mind TOO 😂❤️ What’s something small you said yes to recently that made a big difference? Oh and this dreamy fleece (fleecy on the inside too which is very important!!!) is from @gympluscoffee AD PRESS
Anyone else 😂😂 It’s wild how often these 'mistakes' aren’t really mistakes…they’re symptoms. Symptoms of carrying the mental load, of trying to think five steps ahead, of juggling everyone’s needs, dates, forms, gifts, logistics.....while also attempting to have a personality and drink water. When your brain is juggling at full capacity, it doesn’t just drop the big balls, it drops the weird, tiny, easily mocked ones. Those things that make you think, ‘How did I even manage that?’ But psychologically? It makes perfect sense. Your brain prioritises survival tasks, not admin tasks. So when you’re tired, overloaded or in pre-Christmas mode, your executive function does the best it can with the resource it has. Instead of beating myself up this time, I just thought 'I cannot be the only one'...and my DM's proved just that 😂😂 So tell me: What’s your most iconic, ridiculous, festive fail? I remember one Christmas we drove hours in the snow to get to a house we were borrowing for Christmas. We forgot all the food that had been lovingly gathered and prepared 🫠 And if you need a tiny reframe (or two) to help: 1. When your brain slips, choose compassion first. It didn’t fail, it protected you by choosing something else in the moment. That’s how overloaded systems work. 2. Future you doesn’t need perfection....just interception. A quick check, a pause, a second glance at the date or basket is enough to catch most chaos before it snowballs. Let’s normalise the chaos and remind each other that being human is very much enough. And most festive disasters only feel like disasters because of the extra pressure that gets loaded on, and most stuff can be figured out with a bit of grace and creative thinking. And also, a lot of the time it doesn't actually matter really, in the grand scheme of stuff ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Anyone else 😂😂 It’s wild how often these 'mistakes' aren’t really mistakes…they’re symptoms. Symptoms of carrying the mental load, of trying to think five steps ahead, of juggling everyone’s needs, dates, forms, gifts, logistics.....while also attempting to have a personality and drink water. When your brain is juggling at full capacity, it doesn’t just drop the big balls, it drops the weird, tiny, easily mocked ones. Those things that make you think, ‘How did I even manage that?’ But psychologically? It makes perfect sense. Your brain prioritises survival tasks, not admin tasks. So when you’re tired, overloaded or in pre-Christmas mode, your executive function does the best it can with the resource it has. Instead of beating myself up this time, I just thought 'I cannot be the only one'...and my DM's proved just that 😂😂 So tell me: What’s your most iconic, ridiculous, festive fail? I remember one Christmas we drove hours in the snow to get to a house we were borrowing for Christmas. We forgot all the food that had been lovingly gathered and prepared 🫠 And if you need a tiny reframe (or two) to help: 1. When your brain slips, choose compassion first. It didn’t fail, it protected you by choosing something else in the moment. That’s how overloaded systems work. 2. Future you doesn’t need perfection....just interception. A quick check, a pause, a second glance at the date or basket is enough to catch most chaos before it snowballs. Let’s normalise the chaos and remind each other that being human is very much enough. And most festive disasters only feel like disasters because of the extra pressure that gets loaded on, and most stuff can be figured out with a bit of grace and creative thinking. And also, a lot of the time it doesn't actually matter really, in the grand scheme of stuff ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Is this you? You love the idea of Christmas but the colours, the clutter, the flashing lights, the things-on-surfaces-that-don’t-normally-have-things….leaves you feeling more Grinch than you’d like. I want the magic, but the visual noise builds on life’s already high base level of stimulation. I’ve spent years wondering why everyone else seems energised by the chaos whilst I’d much rather a stripped back, tinsel and flashing-santa free version. For some, this feeling has always been there…. for others, it appears in adulthood as both the internal and external noise rises. When your brain is already filtering noise, decisions, emotions and responsibility, any extra visual stimulation becomes one demand too many. This isn’t a personality flaw, you’re nomodern day Scrooge. It’s a nervous system issue. Some brains seamlessly filter background input; others register every single thing. And Christmas, with its abundance of colour, movement, clutter and novelty, becomes a perfect storm. So what helps? 1. Reduce the load, not the joy. Create small, intentional pockets of Christmas instead of letting it spread to every surface. 2. Give everyone their zone. Let the kids have their maximalist corners/ bedroom, while you get to keep calmer spaces. 3. Choose softer over louder. Warm lights instead of flashing ones, fewer colours, fewer competing decorations. 4. Say it out loud. ‘I love Christmas, but too much visual clutter overwhelms me. Can we keep it cosy, not chaotic?’ Naming it reduces shame. 5. Redefine what fun looks like. Fun doesn’t have to be loud or busy. It can be small, cosy, deliberate….joy that fits your actual capacity. My kids want maximalist Christmas joy. I want visual silence. We’re doing mixed-economy festive living 🎅🏽 PS - was meant to say 'stresses' not stressed. I see that now. I'm not redoing it. I can't see typos until I've published something. I think it's a thing 😵‍💫😂
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Is this you? You love the idea of Christmas but the colours, the clutter, the flashing lights, the things-on-surfaces-that-don’t-normally-have-things….leaves you feeling more Grinch than you’d like. I want the magic, but the visual noise builds on life’s already high base level of stimulation. I’ve spent years wondering why everyone else seems energised by the chaos whilst I’d much rather a stripped back, tinsel and flashing-santa free version. For some, this feeling has always been there…. for others, it appears in adulthood as both the internal and external noise rises. When your brain is already filtering noise, decisions, emotions and responsibility, any extra visual stimulation becomes one demand too many. This isn’t a personality flaw, you’re nomodern day Scrooge. It’s a nervous system issue. Some brains seamlessly filter background input; others register every single thing. And Christmas, with its abundance of colour, movement, clutter and novelty, becomes a perfect storm. So what helps? 1. Reduce the load, not the joy. Create small, intentional pockets of Christmas instead of letting it spread to every surface. 2. Give everyone their zone. Let the kids have their maximalist corners/ bedroom, while you get to keep calmer spaces. 3. Choose softer over louder. Warm lights instead of flashing ones, fewer colours, fewer competing decorations. 4. Say it out loud. ‘I love Christmas, but too much visual clutter overwhelms me. Can we keep it cosy, not chaotic?’ Naming it reduces shame. 5. Redefine what fun looks like. Fun doesn’t have to be loud or busy. It can be small, cosy, deliberate….joy that fits your actual capacity. My kids want maximalist Christmas joy. I want visual silence. We’re doing mixed-economy festive living 🎅🏽 PS - was meant to say 'stresses' not stressed. I see that now. I'm not redoing it. I can't see typos until I've published something. I think it's a thing 😵‍💫😂
Anyone else find something oddly emotional about someone flashing their hazard lights to say thank you? It’s brief. It’s small. But it says: I saw you, thank you, that helped. And I went out of my way to find a button, just for you 😂 And isn’t that what we’re all craving, in some way? To be noticed. Acknowledged. Even if it’s just for letting someone merge in traffic. These tiny, human gestures matter more than we realise. In a world that often feels chaotic, disconnected, or performative, it’s the silly, small things that restore a sense of kindness and connection. It’s unnecessary. It’s mildly rule-breaking. But for some reason, it always makes me happy. Here are a few other small, oddly moving moments: A tissue handed over without a word Someone else stacking your dishwasher A door held open too early so you awkward-jog A friend topping up your water A child who gives you one of their snacks What small, silly moment made you smile this week? (I Googled it – technically not illegal, butconsidered a misuse.)
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Anyone else find something oddly emotional about someone flashing their hazard lights to say thank you? It’s brief. It’s small. But it says: I saw you, thank you, that helped. And I went out of my way to find a button, just for you 😂 And isn’t that what we’re all craving, in some way? To be noticed. Acknowledged. Even if it’s just for letting someone merge in traffic. These tiny, human gestures matter more than we realise. In a world that often feels chaotic, disconnected, or performative, it’s the silly, small things that restore a sense of kindness and connection. It’s unnecessary. It’s mildly rule-breaking. But for some reason, it always makes me happy. Here are a few other small, oddly moving moments: A tissue handed over without a word Someone else stacking your dishwasher A door held open too early so you awkward-jog A friend topping up your water A child who gives you one of their snacks What small, silly moment made you smile this week? (I Googled it – technically not illegal, butconsidered a misuse.)
This is how it happens... a neutral, human moment becomes a character judgement, an assessment. Not 'I forgot to buy school shirts' But 'What kind of parent does that make me?' We’re very good at turning admin glitches into evidence of inadequacy. It’s rarely about the shirts...it's about the story we tell ourselves the second something slips. Notice that moment, that's the work. (She's having to wear her brother's too-big, short-sleeved ones and she's livid about it, but I apologised and explained, and I'll fly by Sainzbos. It's all survivable 😂 and it's all a little lesson in humanness and grace, for ourselves and each other)
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This is how it happens... a neutral, human moment becomes a character judgement, an assessment. Not 'I forgot to buy school shirts' But 'What kind of parent does that make me?' We’re very good at turning admin glitches into evidence of inadequacy. It’s rarely about the shirts...it's about the story we tell ourselves the second something slips. Notice that moment, that's the work. (She's having to wear her brother's too-big, short-sleeved ones and she's livid about it, but I apologised and explained, and I'll fly by Sainzbos. It's all survivable 😂 and it's all a little lesson in humanness and grace, for ourselves and each other)
AD What do you do in these little breaks? If I’m going to end up on my phone during a work break anyway… I may as well make those few minutes actually benefit me. Lately I’ve swapped the scroll for my tiny daily Mini Cogs puzzle…. a fresh, human-made (not AI!) challenge that takes a couple of minutes and gives my brain one simple thing to settle into. A little concentration, a tiny bit of ‘wait… what?’, and then that very satisfying click when it all makes sense. It’s such a small switch, but it turns these in-between moments into something that feels playful and surprisingly uplifting. If you fancy a fun, intentional pause today, try the new Mini Cogs puzzle at cogs.gg and tell me your time. Mine is getting (slowly!) better each day… but feel free to beat me 😂 #AD #MiniCogs #PuzzTok #WordGames #MiniCogsChallenge
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AD What do you do in these little breaks? If I’m going to end up on my phone during a work break anyway… I may as well make those few minutes actually benefit me. Lately I’ve swapped the scroll for my tiny daily Mini Cogs puzzle…. a fresh, human-made (not AI!) challenge that takes a couple of minutes and gives my brain one simple thing to settle into. A little concentration, a tiny bit of ‘wait… what?’, and then that very satisfying click when it all makes sense. It’s such a small switch, but it turns these in-between moments into something that feels playful and surprisingly uplifting. If you fancy a fun, intentional pause today, try the new Mini Cogs puzzle at cogs.gg and tell me your time. Mine is getting (slowly!) better each day… but feel free to beat me 😂 #AD #MiniCogs #PuzzTok #WordGames #MiniCogsChallenge
Did you know this? It made me exhale a bit when I learnt this. So maybe today felt stressful, messy, or not what you hoped...it doesn’t mean it’s wasted. There’s still time for one little moment of connection, joy, or calm that can stand out in the remembering. ❤️❤️
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Did you know this? It made me exhale a bit when I learnt this. So maybe today felt stressful, messy, or not what you hoped...it doesn’t mean it’s wasted. There’s still time for one little moment of connection, joy, or calm that can stand out in the remembering. ❤️❤️
Growing up, we didn’t have the luxury of outsourcing. If it broke, you fixed it. If you wanted it, you made it. I watched my dad scratch his head to find workarounds and dive into trial and error. He was industrious and resourceful. And now, years later, I’m realising how empowering that resourcefulness really was. Recently I've rewired plugs, replaced strip lighting, fixed hinges, jet washed..and it's fun and oh, so empowering. I remember the women before us who built planes, welded steel and ran factories and wonder how women have become to be caricatured in such a wildly removed way. I LOVE following my friend Becky. I have been following her as she builds wardrobes and wields power tools over on @surreyhousediy , and empowers us to do the same. Capability isn’t a personality type but something we grow, one attempt at a time. The next time you catch yourself saying, “Oh I couldn’t do that”… pause. And maybe give it a go anyway. Tried anything new recently?
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Growing up, we didn’t have the luxury of outsourcing. If it broke, you fixed it. If you wanted it, you made it. I watched my dad scratch his head to find workarounds and dive into trial and error. He was industrious and resourceful. And now, years later, I’m realising how empowering that resourcefulness really was. Recently I've rewired plugs, replaced strip lighting, fixed hinges, jet washed..and it's fun and oh, so empowering. I remember the women before us who built planes, welded steel and ran factories and wonder how women have become to be caricatured in such a wildly removed way. I LOVE following my friend Becky. I have been following her as she builds wardrobes and wields power tools over on @surreyhousediy , and empowers us to do the same. Capability isn’t a personality type but something we grow, one attempt at a time. The next time you catch yourself saying, “Oh I couldn’t do that”… pause. And maybe give it a go anyway. Tried anything new recently?
A poem. Maybe. I'm not sure 🤣 Is this a bit of you?
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A poem. Maybe. I'm not sure 🤣 Is this a bit of you?
I took a glorious festive break from the gram. How was your Christmas? Our Christmas has been mixed! There were divinely lovely family moments, we’ve had a house PACKED with people we love, we’ve had great food, low-demand days and films, and lots of guitar practice (our secret-santa present, and my new hyperfocus, haha). We also had a virus that took out over half the fam, a huge leak, a mountain of insurance admin, a massive number of meltdowns. In truth, I’m more exhausted than I was when I put my out of office on, and I was feeling pretty burnt out then. The leak happened in the small gap between a party of 17 dispersing, and the next of 11 gathering for Christmas… water poured, lengthy damage ensued. But the neighbours FLEW round with mops and the contents of their airing cupboards. It was incredible to witness! I’ve noticed that when things like this happen (stressful but not catastrophic) something powerful happens in me. I’m standing in a flooded kitchen.....happy. Sure, it was wildly frustrating and hugely costly, but my perspective gets thrown into the sharpest focus. Nobody died. And people are kind. I think, is Christmas for most of us, right? A mish-mash. It’s magic and meltdowns, sofa snuggles and soggy socks. It’s laughter woven through chaos and love showing up in practical, unexpected ways. And we're still here, breathing, laughing, being annoyed by leaks, and that’s a wild privilege I never want to become numb to. Gratitude doesn’t make the annoying stuff any less annoying, it just stops it being the whole story 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
 Any dodgy timed mishaps your end? Our water stopped halfway through the Christmas washing-up and we just got it back. Fortunately we did have access to a flushing toilet and a hot shower! So we'd queue up 😂. Goodness me were we grateful when all the loos flushed again!
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I took a glorious festive break from the gram. How was your Christmas? Our Christmas has been mixed! There were divinely lovely family moments, we’ve had a house PACKED with people we love, we’ve had great food, low-demand days and films, and lots of guitar practice (our secret-santa present, and my new hyperfocus, haha). We also had a virus that took out over half the fam, a huge leak, a mountain of insurance admin, a massive number of meltdowns. In truth, I’m more exhausted than I was when I put my out of office on, and I was feeling pretty burnt out then. The leak happened in the small gap between a party of 17 dispersing, and the next of 11 gathering for Christmas… water poured, lengthy damage ensued. But the neighbours FLEW round with mops and the contents of their airing cupboards. It was incredible to witness! I’ve noticed that when things like this happen (stressful but not catastrophic) something powerful happens in me. I’m standing in a flooded kitchen.....happy. Sure, it was wildly frustrating and hugely costly, but my perspective gets thrown into the sharpest focus. Nobody died. And people are kind. I think, is Christmas for most of us, right? A mish-mash. It’s magic and meltdowns, sofa snuggles and soggy socks. It’s laughter woven through chaos and love showing up in practical, unexpected ways. And we're still here, breathing, laughing, being annoyed by leaks, and that’s a wild privilege I never want to become numb to. Gratitude doesn’t make the annoying stuff any less annoying, it just stops it being the whole story 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
 Any dodgy timed mishaps your end? Our water stopped halfway through the Christmas washing-up and we just got it back. Fortunately we did have access to a flushing toilet and a hot shower! So we'd queue up 😂. Goodness me were we grateful when all the loos flushed again!
My husband bought us tickets to see Coldplay. I adore Chris Martin’s energy, the music, the lyrics. I devour their sets at Glasto (from the sofa) whilst my husband dreams of being IN the crowd. So, he told me he'd got tickets. My first feeling was stress, not excitement. I thought about the crowd of 80,000 more than the music, the late-night journey home more than the theatrics. The noise, the movement, the sheer logistics...my chest tightened. My whole body said no. I wrestled with myself for weeks. I went back and forth. I felt such frustration and shame that I felt braced at the thought of something others run towards? Should I push myself - maybe I'd be glad I did? Should I be grateful and just go? Should I go to please him? Should I want what everyone else would jump for? But guilt doesn’t change the fact that your body and soul knows its limits. Mine wasn’t saying, 'I don’t like Coldplay', It was saying, 'Too much'. I'm just not a mega crowd gal and that's not a failing of character. So I said no. My husband invited his mum, and I realised something important: Not every once-in-a-lifetime opportunity has to be right for you. There’s a difference between stretching your comfort zone and abandoning yourself altogether. Last night we went out for dinner, the first time in years. The seasons of ND parenting we've been in have found me wanting only stillness and loungewear in the evening for a LONG time. It was FAB. It was a stretch, it felt like a gentle adventure, one I'd not had the capacity to embark on for some time. But it's the kind of stretch I can hold right now. Sometimes growth isn’t pushing yourself, it’s saying no to something shiny on paper, because peace matters more than performance. So tell me do things like this bring you to life or find your shoulders tensing? Would you be there in a flash? I’d love to hear what 'peace over performance' looks like in your life. DARN IT THOUGH - my husband had put the tickets on sale again incase he couldn't find anyone to go with, but didn't complete the priciest to take them offline again, so they sold overnight 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫. He's fitted and I'm gutted for them.
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My husband bought us tickets to see Coldplay. I adore Chris Martin’s energy, the music, the lyrics. I devour their sets at Glasto (from the sofa) whilst my husband dreams of being IN the crowd. So, he told me he'd got tickets. My first feeling was stress, not excitement. I thought about the crowd of 80,000 more than the music, the late-night journey home more than the theatrics. The noise, the movement, the sheer logistics...my chest tightened. My whole body said no. I wrestled with myself for weeks. I went back and forth. I felt such frustration and shame that I felt braced at the thought of something others run towards? Should I push myself - maybe I'd be glad I did? Should I be grateful and just go? Should I go to please him? Should I want what everyone else would jump for? But guilt doesn’t change the fact that your body and soul knows its limits. Mine wasn’t saying, 'I don’t like Coldplay', It was saying, 'Too much'. I'm just not a mega crowd gal and that's not a failing of character. So I said no. My husband invited his mum, and I realised something important: Not every once-in-a-lifetime opportunity has to be right for you. There’s a difference between stretching your comfort zone and abandoning yourself altogether. Last night we went out for dinner, the first time in years. The seasons of ND parenting we've been in have found me wanting only stillness and loungewear in the evening for a LONG time. It was FAB. It was a stretch, it felt like a gentle adventure, one I'd not had the capacity to embark on for some time. But it's the kind of stretch I can hold right now. Sometimes growth isn’t pushing yourself, it’s saying no to something shiny on paper, because peace matters more than performance. So tell me do things like this bring you to life or find your shoulders tensing? Would you be there in a flash? I’d love to hear what 'peace over performance' looks like in your life. DARN IT THOUGH - my husband had put the tickets on sale again incase he couldn't find anyone to go with, but didn't complete the priciest to take them offline again, so they sold overnight 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫. He's fitted and I'm gutted for them.
HEALTH ANXIETY 🏥 and why you’re experiencing it in midlife 😩 We’re talking all about anxiety this week, and specifically health anxiety, where we feel fearful of what those test results might reveal, or how the next midlife health checkup will go. After interviewing the brilliant psychotherapist and health anxiety expert @annamathur, Lorraine and Trish chat about how to spot health anxiety, tips for boosting our mental health in midlife and beyond, and how we can comfort and support those facing anxiety around their health 🙌 Thank you to Anna for her super helpful insights into why we’re particularly prone to this type of anxiety in midlife, and what we can do to relieve it 🧡 PLUS: we have an offer for you! Alongside her book Uncomfortable Truths, Anna has a one hour online webinar with lots of advice on coping with health anxiety. She is offering our listeners a discount - the full fee is £20, but PFM listeners can get 40% off with the code Midlife40. Link to book in our stories! #healthanxiety #annamathur #psychotherapy #pychotherapist #midlife #midlifewomen #midlifewoman #anxiety #anxietysupport
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HEALTH ANXIETY 🏥 and why you’re experiencing it in midlife 😩 We’re talking all about anxiety this week, and specifically health anxiety, where we feel fearful of what those test results might reveal, or how the next midlife health checkup will go. After interviewing the brilliant psychotherapist and health anxiety expert @annamathur, Lorraine and Trish chat about how to spot health anxiety, tips for boosting our mental health in midlife and beyond, and how we can comfort and support those facing anxiety around their health 🙌 Thank you to Anna for her super helpful insights into why we’re particularly prone to this type of anxiety in midlife, and what we can do to relieve it 🧡 PLUS: we have an offer for you! Alongside her book Uncomfortable Truths, Anna has a one hour online webinar with lots of advice on coping with health anxiety. She is offering our listeners a discount - the full fee is £20, but PFM listeners can get 40% off with the code Midlife40. Link to book in our stories! #healthanxiety #annamathur #psychotherapy #pychotherapist #midlife #midlifewomen #midlifewoman #anxiety #anxietysupport
☁️ How do you start finding your true self? ☁️ In this moment from Every Cloud, a powerful conversation with resident expert Anna Mathur explores identity, authenticity, and the pain of realising not everyone will like you. 🎧 Listen to the latest episode of Every Cloud. Link in bio. #EveryCloudPodcast #AnnaMathur #Authenticity #SelfDiscovery #Growth #Podcast
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☁️ How do you start finding your true self? ☁️ In this moment from Every Cloud, a powerful conversation with resident expert Anna Mathur explores identity, authenticity, and the pain of realising not everyone will like you. 🎧 Listen to the latest episode of Every Cloud. Link in bio. #EveryCloudPodcast #AnnaMathur #Authenticity #SelfDiscovery #Growth #Podcast
Is this you? Sure, nobody likes vomit. But emetophobia isn’t about “not liking” something unpleasant. It’s a phobia that hijacks your whole body, your decisions, your freedom, and sometimes even your hopes for your own future. For years, December wasn’t festive for me, it was frightening. A cough on the Tube, a mention of a winter bug, someone having one too many at a party…my body would catapult into panic. I’d change plans, leave places early, avoid foods, avoid travel, avoid risk. I even questioned whether I could cope with motherhood. If you’ve ever felt that same dread rising from nowhere, the heart pound, the nausea, the urge to flee, I want you to know this: you are not dramatic, and you are not alone. In my @femail @dailymail article, I share the roots of my Emetophobia, the years it silently shaped my life, and the slow, steady shift that helped me reclaim my world again, and is helping my clients too. Not perfection or fearlessness. But freedom… the kind that means I no longer brace myself for the festive season, waiting for something to go wrong. I can actually be here, present, living my life. There is help and there is hope. And your life does not have to revolve around avoiding sickness. If you want the link to the full article, comment ‘article’ If you’d like my one-hour Sofa Session on emetophobia, the psychology, the tools, and the gentle steps forward, comment ‘video’ You deserve to feel safe in your own body again.
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Is this you? Sure, nobody likes vomit. But emetophobia isn’t about “not liking” something unpleasant. It’s a phobia that hijacks your whole body, your decisions, your freedom, and sometimes even your hopes for your own future. For years, December wasn’t festive for me, it was frightening. A cough on the Tube, a mention of a winter bug, someone having one too many at a party…my body would catapult into panic. I’d change plans, leave places early, avoid foods, avoid travel, avoid risk. I even questioned whether I could cope with motherhood. If you’ve ever felt that same dread rising from nowhere, the heart pound, the nausea, the urge to flee, I want you to know this: you are not dramatic, and you are not alone. In my @femail @dailymail article, I share the roots of my Emetophobia, the years it silently shaped my life, and the slow, steady shift that helped me reclaim my world again, and is helping my clients too. Not perfection or fearlessness. But freedom… the kind that means I no longer brace myself for the festive season, waiting for something to go wrong. I can actually be here, present, living my life. There is help and there is hope. And your life does not have to revolve around avoiding sickness. If you want the link to the full article, comment ‘article’ If you’d like my one-hour Sofa Session on emetophobia, the psychology, the tools, and the gentle steps forward, comment ‘video’ You deserve to feel safe in your own body again.
Anyone else? Have you ever noticed your body reacting before your brain can catch up? Like the bang in the night that makes your heart race....before you even know what it is? We heard a bang in the house. We looked at each other. And… did nothing. No one leapt off the sofa. No one started scanning for threats or counting children. We just… stayed put. We assumed it had something to do with the cat. And it hit me: That’s new. There was a time not so long ago when I would have launched into action....adrenaline pumping, breath shallow, nervous system on red alert. I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself. Because that’s what hyper-vigilance does. It primes you to expect the worst. To scan for danger. To move before your mind catches up. To carry the weight of keeping everyone safe. But that night? I felt safe enough to do nothing. And that felt like a quiet kind of freedom. If you’re still in the place where every sound feels like a threat, where your heart jumps at the tiniest shift...I see you. I’ve lived it. And I want you to know: it doesn’t have to be forever. Safety can be relearned. Slowly. Gently. In therapy. In trusted relationships. In breath. In micro-moments that remind your body it no longer has to be on guard. My nervous system is still learning, but last night, it passed a test I didn’t even know I was still taking. If this resonates, you might find Mind Over Mother a comforting place to start. I wrote it in the thick of this journey, for anyone who’s been quietly bracing, for too long. You’re not broken. You’re adapting. And healing is possible. One quiet night at a time.
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Anyone else? Have you ever noticed your body reacting before your brain can catch up? Like the bang in the night that makes your heart race....before you even know what it is? We heard a bang in the house. We looked at each other. And… did nothing. No one leapt off the sofa. No one started scanning for threats or counting children. We just… stayed put. We assumed it had something to do with the cat. And it hit me: That’s new. There was a time not so long ago when I would have launched into action....adrenaline pumping, breath shallow, nervous system on red alert. I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself. Because that’s what hyper-vigilance does. It primes you to expect the worst. To scan for danger. To move before your mind catches up. To carry the weight of keeping everyone safe. But that night? I felt safe enough to do nothing. And that felt like a quiet kind of freedom. If you’re still in the place where every sound feels like a threat, where your heart jumps at the tiniest shift...I see you. I’ve lived it. And I want you to know: it doesn’t have to be forever. Safety can be relearned. Slowly. Gently. In therapy. In trusted relationships. In breath. In micro-moments that remind your body it no longer has to be on guard. My nervous system is still learning, but last night, it passed a test I didn’t even know I was still taking. If this resonates, you might find Mind Over Mother a comforting place to start. I wrote it in the thick of this journey, for anyone who’s been quietly bracing, for too long. You’re not broken. You’re adapting. And healing is possible. One quiet night at a time.
Anyone else?? How are you planning to slow it down??? Me…. Taking any uninterrupted moment I can...find no tasks, no decisions, just your breath. Extra points for starfishing on the floor! Doing something slower. Stir the porridge slower, walk to the car slower, dry after a shower slower, wrap the gift slower. Slowness sends the body the signal that we aren’t in danger whereas and rushing does the opposite. 
 Lowering the bar. Cut corners, buy pre-cut veg, skip the extra outing. Say ‘that’s enough’ sooner.. every reduced expectation is a reclaimed piece of calm and resource. Keeping one space calm. A bedside table, a corner of the sofa, even the driver’s seat. A place your eyes can rest without being shouted at by glitter, tinsel, or laundry... visual calm is restful. Let connection count more than performance. Kids remember how it felt far more than what it looked like.
Snuggles, softness, silliness, and being present for five minutes beat a perfect experience every time (pressureeeee) Any more???
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Anyone else?? How are you planning to slow it down??? Me…. Taking any uninterrupted moment I can...find no tasks, no decisions, just your breath. Extra points for starfishing on the floor! Doing something slower. Stir the porridge slower, walk to the car slower, dry after a shower slower, wrap the gift slower. Slowness sends the body the signal that we aren’t in danger whereas and rushing does the opposite. 
 Lowering the bar. Cut corners, buy pre-cut veg, skip the extra outing. Say ‘that’s enough’ sooner.. every reduced expectation is a reclaimed piece of calm and resource. Keeping one space calm. A bedside table, a corner of the sofa, even the driver’s seat. A place your eyes can rest without being shouted at by glitter, tinsel, or laundry... visual calm is restful. Let connection count more than performance. Kids remember how it felt far more than what it looked like.
Snuggles, softness, silliness, and being present for five minutes beat a perfect experience every time (pressureeeee) Any more???
I wish I'd put some lip balm on though 🤣 Seeing as you liked yesterday's, I thought I'd share another.
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I wish I'd put some lip balm on though 🤣 Seeing as you liked yesterday's, I thought I'd share another.
Anyone relate???? What has been final straw for you recently? Our brains aren’t designed for rapid-fire task-switching. I worked out, that was like 5 micro switches in a matter of seconds. New data to take in, new colours, new noise. Each switch drains working memory, increases stress hormones, and shrinks our capacity for the next thing!!! So when you find yourself crying over something tiny, don’t beat yourself up Imagine carrying an empty shopping bag and loading it with a pebble every few steps. It will split. You don’t think ‘oh, I only put one small pebble in’, you acknowledge that the bag was fit to burst! In the same way, when you flip, snap or cry at one small thing, it wasn’t the thing’s fault itself, you weren’t being dramatic, it was the tipping point where it was too much. Your brain is doing its best inside a season (and culture) that demands far more than any human nervous system was designed for. What helps? Write it down instead of carrying it. Offload the mental tabs into notes on your phone, a notebook, a chalkboard. Set reminders so you don’t try to hold everything at once. I set thousands of reminders this last year. I can’t hold it all in my head, it all gets too heavy. Let your phone remember things so your body doesn’t have to. Do one thing all the way through before opening a new tab. Finish the toilet roll, then the WhatsApp, then the gift link. It will all be there waiting for you. Outsource or automate where you can. Delegating isn’t failure, it’s support!! Lower the December expectations. The pressure to be festive, productive, organised, calm, present and magical all at once…is physiologically impossibleeeee. Be gentle with yourself. You are not the problem, the load is.
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Anyone relate???? What has been final straw for you recently? Our brains aren’t designed for rapid-fire task-switching. I worked out, that was like 5 micro switches in a matter of seconds. New data to take in, new colours, new noise. Each switch drains working memory, increases stress hormones, and shrinks our capacity for the next thing!!! So when you find yourself crying over something tiny, don’t beat yourself up Imagine carrying an empty shopping bag and loading it with a pebble every few steps. It will split. You don’t think ‘oh, I only put one small pebble in’, you acknowledge that the bag was fit to burst! In the same way, when you flip, snap or cry at one small thing, it wasn’t the thing’s fault itself, you weren’t being dramatic, it was the tipping point where it was too much. Your brain is doing its best inside a season (and culture) that demands far more than any human nervous system was designed for. What helps? Write it down instead of carrying it. Offload the mental tabs into notes on your phone, a notebook, a chalkboard. Set reminders so you don’t try to hold everything at once. I set thousands of reminders this last year. I can’t hold it all in my head, it all gets too heavy. Let your phone remember things so your body doesn’t have to. Do one thing all the way through before opening a new tab. Finish the toilet roll, then the WhatsApp, then the gift link. It will all be there waiting for you. Outsource or automate where you can. Delegating isn’t failure, it’s support!! Lower the December expectations. The pressure to be festive, productive, organised, calm, present and magical all at once…is physiologically impossibleeeee. Be gentle with yourself. You are not the problem, the load is.
☁️ What’s really behind road rage? ☁️ It’s not just about the traffic. 🎧 Catch the latest episode of Every Cloud featuring our resident expert Anna Mathur - available wherever you get your podcasts. Link in bio. #EveryCloudPodcast #AnnaMathur #Rage #Emotions #Growth #Podcast
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☁️ What’s really behind road rage? ☁️ It’s not just about the traffic. 🎧 Catch the latest episode of Every Cloud featuring our resident expert Anna Mathur - available wherever you get your podcasts. Link in bio. #EveryCloudPodcast #AnnaMathur #Rage #Emotions #Growth #Podcast
Do you flex… or hold on to boundaries for dear life? I’ve done both. And honestly, both come from love. I used to think good boundaries meant holding the line no matter what. But real-life parenting isn’t lived in theory, it’s lived in the mess, the moods, and nervous systems that are frayed before the evening even begins. Getting the tree out wasn’t about breaking a boundary, it was about pausing long enough to ask myself… does this rule actually matter right now, or am I clinging to it because I’m trying to do things ‘right’? Children don’t learn boundary-respect through adult rigidity; they learn it through boundaries that feel workable in the moment. And when a child is already overwhelmed, holding firm (in our household at least) adds pressure they simply can’t withstand. Flexing isn’t the opposite of boundaries….it’s what makes them human. I’ve learnt that sometimes the wisest thing I can do is loosen what doesn’t matter to protect what does… connection, calm, recovery…the version of the evening where you're hauling a tree out of a box on a Wednesday night instead of waiting for the weekend. The version where everyone stays tethered instead of tipping into more stress (and tbf the sparkle and joy was a welcome shift) Choosing connection over control isn’t ‘giving in’, it’s about building trust, co-regulation, and future capacity…. for them and for me. I've started breaking my own rules sometimes too. ‘I must do a HIIT class. I must tidy up right now, I MUST hit a (rather ridiculous, self-set) word count, I must push on’. Must I? Sometimes, yes, structure helps. But often those ‘must’s are just old rules I’ve outgrown, or belong to a different version of me on a different day, with different capacity. And breaking my own rules is sometimes the exact thing that brings me back to myself. How about you?? Xx
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Do you flex… or hold on to boundaries for dear life? I’ve done both. And honestly, both come from love. I used to think good boundaries meant holding the line no matter what. But real-life parenting isn’t lived in theory, it’s lived in the mess, the moods, and nervous systems that are frayed before the evening even begins. Getting the tree out wasn’t about breaking a boundary, it was about pausing long enough to ask myself… does this rule actually matter right now, or am I clinging to it because I’m trying to do things ‘right’? Children don’t learn boundary-respect through adult rigidity; they learn it through boundaries that feel workable in the moment. And when a child is already overwhelmed, holding firm (in our household at least) adds pressure they simply can’t withstand. Flexing isn’t the opposite of boundaries….it’s what makes them human. I’ve learnt that sometimes the wisest thing I can do is loosen what doesn’t matter to protect what does… connection, calm, recovery…the version of the evening where you're hauling a tree out of a box on a Wednesday night instead of waiting for the weekend. The version where everyone stays tethered instead of tipping into more stress (and tbf the sparkle and joy was a welcome shift) Choosing connection over control isn’t ‘giving in’, it’s about building trust, co-regulation, and future capacity…. for them and for me. I've started breaking my own rules sometimes too. ‘I must do a HIIT class. I must tidy up right now, I MUST hit a (rather ridiculous, self-set) word count, I must push on’. Must I? Sometimes, yes, structure helps. But often those ‘must’s are just old rules I’ve outgrown, or belong to a different version of me on a different day, with different capacity. And breaking my own rules is sometimes the exact thing that brings me back to myself. How about you?? Xx

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